In a litigated divorce cases involving child custody and visitation, the
parties have two options: They can come to an agreement, or they can let
a judge decide. If the idea of a third party dictating how often you can
see your children seems intrusive and distasteful, child custody mediation
may be a good option for you.
A mediator can help you and your spouse frame a conversation relating to
custody and visitation of your children. A mediator can also guide you
through a thicket of other issues such as vacation and holiday schedules,
extracurricular activities and child care costs.
Issues involving children can be emotional and subjective. Retaining a
mediator who is charged with listening to both sides and suggesting solutions
- and defuse conflict – may be one of the smartest decisions one
can make in a divorce case.
A mediator won't act as a judge and render a final decision. She will
listen to each party's goals and work to understand the reasoning
behind those goals. A mediator can help each party understand the other's
arguments, and try to address those arguments for the other's benefit.
Starting a dialogue is the best way to bring about compromise. Candid discussions
guided by a mediator can help the parties learn to solve problems and