If you're thinking about filing for a dissolution of your marriage,
you already know there are tough decisions ahead. Rather than be overwhelmed,
try to break down the information into manageable parts instead. Take
some time and contemplate what's in store for you and your family.
Let's start with how you select your attorney.
About a year ago, I wrote a post about what we euphemistically call a "bulldog
attorney." This is a type of 'aggressive' litigator: someone
who questions every issue, litigates on every angle, and turns every technicality
into a sordid trail of paperwork. When I think of a bulldog attorney,
I can also see a mountain of bills.
Choosing the right attorney to represent you in divorce proceedings is
one of the most important decisions you will make. Okay, so maybe you'll
get some emotional satisfaction from a 'bulldog', but most folks
simply cannot afford that kind of aggressive litigation. More than once
I've seen clients literally run out of money before they reach trial.
Be comfortable with the advocate you choose - "do" get referrals
and "do" check credentials, but "don't" make rash
decisions based on emotion. Make sure you have a good rapport with your
lawyer - you need to be comfortable with their style, their approach,
and their advice. A divorce is a process, and choosing someone who is
a good fit for your personality and goals can make the process a bit easier