I have not made a complete read of this
book, but several clients have recommended
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way by Gary Neuman. One client dropped off a copy, and I agree that it seems
like a comprehensive resource that not only offers help to
children, but also to divorcing
parents who want a better understanding of what their children are experiencing.
During divorce, is it any surprise that children need all the love, support,
and guidance parents can offer? So any tool that helps everybody see over
the emotional difficulties and complications has got to be good. My sources
tell me that the book is based on Neuman’s phenomenally successful
Sandcastles program, which has helped more than fifty thousand children
cope with divorce. This text contains guidelines that will show readers:
One client told me that the book is full of heart-wrenching and enlightening
truths spoken by children of all ages. My own quick scan of the book shows
that it is for couples who have taken full responsibility and wish to
guide their children through a life-changing event.
Some remarkable features of the book, it’s big – more than
460 pages, and covers nearly every divorce situation possible. It’s
one of the only books I have seen that includes a discussion on how infants
cope with divorce. Among the topics the author deals with – the
need to avoid angry and acrimonious fighting in the presence of children;
pointers on telling children about the divorce; helping children cope
with one parent moving away; custody and visitation. There’s even
a chapter on preparing parents on the task of continuing parenting after
divorce. He even offers anecdotes about deadbeat moms as well as deadbeat dads.
I suggest this book as a possible resource. It looks sound, it doesn’t
make the mistake of delving into legalistic issues (which books of this
kind sometimes do), and despite the fact it was published in 1999, as
far as I can see, it is very relevant today.